How to Get a Girl to Chase You Over Text

The Biggest Mistakes Men Make When The Text Women

The biggest mistakes men make when texting a girl they like all come from the wrong issue and are all trying to figure out how to make a girl want you over text :

That you can make a girl fall in love with you over text. Don't you want to know how to get a girl to chase you over text?

It might be possible if the girl is super-lonely or super-desperate… but for the vast majority of other girls, you’re doing the complete opposite of making them want you romantically and/or sexually.

See if you’ve ever made any of the following mistakes:

Mistake #1: Going Into Long Text Sessions With a Girl You Secretly Like

Have you ever gotten into a text session with a girl that lasted several hours, and spanned dozens of texts? It’s a common mistake: It’s easy to think that the longer she texts with you, the more she likes you.

Marathon texts may land you in the “friend-zone”

It’s a big mistake, because:

• The longer she texts with you, the more she’ll see you as a trusted friend instead of a potential boyfriend/lover
• The longer the text sessions goes, the higher the chances she gets bored with you
• The more texts you send, the more chances you’ll send something that offends her or turns her off

Long story short: Going into long text sessions will only kill your chances with her. So don’t! Instead, what I like to do is send a series of carefully crafted text messages that trigger a chemical response in her mind (dopamine). These slowly make her addicted to you (see the video linked above).

Mistake #2: Flirting Over Text

Flirting with a girl over text is actually okay. But you know what’s MUCH better than flirting over text?

It’s flirting face-to-face.

Part of the fun with dating for the first time is the chase. Save some flirting for then, keep it clean, lighthearted and make her smile. Work off her vibes and discover more about her and what she likes… this consequently means more topics to talk about and more opportunities to be flirty.

Leave being flirty to when you meet her face-to-face

Flirting over text is a mistake because:

• Interactions tend to be stripped of their meaning and emotion when done over text instead of face-to-face, so it normally doesn’t work (and in fact fails most miserably most of the time)
• When it DOES work, then you’ll be giving her some extra-high expectations for your meet-up… and if you don’t deliver, she’ll resent you for it

So if you think you can deliver at the date… and if you’re not too terribly attached to the girl… then go ahead and flirt over text.

Otherwise, there’s a much better way to make her like you… and that’s coming up later in this article.

Meanwhile, here’s the third big texting mistake men make:

Mistake #3: Confessing Your Feelings Over Text

This is probably the worst mistake of all…

If you’ve ever confessed your feelings to a girl over text, then what happened next is probably the same as what happened to every other guy who tried it:

• They got ignored
• They got friend-zoned
• They were told to stay away
• Or the resulting face-to-face meet-up tended to be awkward or confrontational [R]

Source: Taylor & Francis study on couples texting

According to the study, men who are dating express almost the same amount of affection through texting as men who are engaged… a strong indication of expressing your feelings prematurely.

This is one of the reasons why men fail to get their ex-girlfriend back after a breakup.

It’s not a texting-only mistake, by the way. Confessing your feelings to a girl face-to-face is also a horrible idea. And it’s all for the same basic reasons:

1. You put her on a pedestal, which basically makes her look down on you
2. You make yourself look weak, needy, and desperate – which no girl would ever feel attracted to
3. If she doesn’t know you that well, she has a clear incentive to say “no”
4. Women are basically less thrilled when receiving confessions than men are

Source: PsycNET study on love confessions

The study looks into who confesses love first in a romantic relationship and shows that on average 61.5% of men confess their love first, whereas women consider the importance of commitment before saying “I love you”.

So long story short: DON’T confess your feelings. Save that for the proposal. Instead, follow an approach that’s stronger, manlier, and sexier…

The Right Way to Text a Girl You Like

Texting is a communication tool to help get more results from your meetings

Read this carefully: Texting is meant to be a TOOL for dating and seduction. It’s meant to help you get more results from your efforts in meeting, dating, and seducing women… NOT take the place of your efforts.

And that’s the bad news you might not want to hear, but need to nonetheless: You can’t hide your lack of real-world flirting skills by developing your text-flirting skills…

Sorry. There’s just no escaping it. You really need to get out there and face the girls… and the sooner you learn this the better.

“DON’T SOLELY RELY ON TECHNOLOGY FOR SUCCESSFUL DATING”

But here’s the GOOD news…

When you use texting as the dating/seduction tool it’s meant to be, then you can set a wonderful upward spiral into motion:

1. You use texting to get more dates with women
2. By going on more dates, you become more successful with women
3. By becoming more successful, you become more confident and experienced
4. By becoming more confident and experienced, you start getting even MORE dates with women you’ve just met
5. Rinse and repeat

If that sounds good to you, then here are the three things you need to start doing right away:

First Things First: Your Goal is to Set Up a Date

Asking a girl out on a date over text has a few GREAT advantages over asking her out face-to-face:

1. It’s harmless
2. It’s easy to do
3. Since you’re not putting her in a spot, she’s more likely to say “yes”

Impress her by asking her out on your opening text

Your goal, then, is to adjust your texting method to maximize the number of dates with the girls you meet. Don’t worry about making her like you or feel attracted to you – that’s what the date is for. Your goal, for now, is to get her to meet you face-to-face first.

Got it? Good. Now let’s move on to the next step:

Secondly: Keep Rapport-Building Over Text to a Minimum

When you text a girl and she responds excitedly to you, you might feel tempted to keep building that connection over text. You can go ahead if you’re confident enough, but avoid doing it for too long – otherwise you’ll risk making Mistakes #1 and #2 (see above).

Keep rapport-building through text to a minimum or face rejection

Remember, it’s ALWAYS better to build rapport with a girl face-to-face, on a proper date. So here’s a better approach to follow:

1. You text a girl, and somewhere along the way she responds excitedly or flirts with you
2. Immediately suggest meeting up sometime soon. You can text her something like:“Hey, you know what, I’ll be checking out the new bar in your area. We should totally hang out.”
3. Once she responds positively, set a date.“Great. Tomorrow at 9, then. See you.”
4. Then end the text session.

Why end the text session so soon?

That’s up next…

Thirdly: Keep the Text Session Short

If you really like the girl and want something romantic/sexual to blossom between you, then make no mistake: You MUST keep your text sessions short. The reason being the 3 Mistakes mentioned earlier: The longer the text session goes, the higher your chances of ruining everything.

Challenge yourself by keeping your texts short, you want to connect with her on your date

So instead, make a connection, get a good reaction, set up the date, end the text session, and prepare for the date. You shouldn’t need more than 10 text messages to do that.

Meanwhile, if your text session has gone over 10 text messages and she’s not connecting with you, it’s best to end the text session and try again another day. You can end the text session with:

“ANYWAY, I GOTTA GO – GOING TO A PARTY TONIGHT. GOTTA GET READY. CIAO.”

When you end a text session with a glimpse into your exciting lifestyle (such as in the example above), she might say:

“WAIT, THERE’S A PARTY? CAN I COME ALONG?”

And if she doesn’t, it’s fine. You can then go ahead and chat with the next girl on your list.

The Best Time to Text Her

The best time to text a girl after meeting her is on the same night you meet her…

“HEY, IT’S CHRIS. HAPPY TO MEET A FELLOW ATHLETE. CHEERS :)”

…or the following day.

“HEY, IT’S CHRIS FROM LAST NIGHT. WHAT’S YOUR SCHEDULE LIKE THIS WEEK?”

If she’s interested, she’ll reply… and if she’s not, she won’t. Such is life.

That’s why you should always, always be approaching and meeting girls you’re interested in or attracted to, and getting their numbers. Keep your pipeline full, and the ones who say “yes” to you will make all your efforts worth it.

All of this is based on my friend How2TXTHer program, a step by step guide to getting women sexually addicted to you via text message.

It’s the only program that focuses on using proven physiological techniques to stimulate her mind with your texts. He shares 5 magic messages that you can use right now to get a girl interested in you, even if she didn’t mean to give you her number.